Today’s society appears to be steadily having a disturbing impact on our marriages. There are certain things lot’s of folks simply take for granted. These things we take lightly gradually eat up the fabric of our marriages. We would examine some of these issues so that we can become aware of them and begin to take proper actions.
It’s no news that marriages face challenges often. One thing that we however may not like to acknowledge is that we invite lot’s of these problems on ourselves. One of the issues we would be looking at is emotional infidelity. This may not appear to be something truly major. A lot of us may claim not to fully know what emotional infidelity is so we shall attempt to explain what it is.
When you’re emotionally close to an individual other than your partner without extending to physical intimacy, you are involved in emotional infidelity. Emotional infidelity is fed mostly by words. It’s for this reason that physical intimacy does not need to be involved. This now brings us to an issue I think is very critical.
If asked, many of us would deny being guilty of emotional infidelity so I would go about this from another angle. This would mean asking us certain questions. Truthfully providing answers to these questions would help us decide if you truly are guilty or not.
Are you registered on Facebook? If you are not on Facebook, are you on another social network? These are the initial questions we need to ask. Your response to the above would likely be in the positive. Let us then go on to the followup question.
Do you spend substantial time on these networks?
You may want to know that a whooping 700 billion minutes are spent on Facebook monthly. This is enough reason to worry. It gets more worrisome because the research makes us realize that these minutes are minutes previously spent on face to face relationship and other real life interactions. Put this in context and you would understand why it is troubling. I would now ask another question.
Just consider it and tell us who you spend most of your time on the social network with?
It certainly is not possible that you would be spending all this time with your spouse online. That might only be possible if your partner is in a different location from you. In a lot of cases, people have online friends that they spend time with.
It’s bad enough that we spend hours chatting online, it is however worse that we now have video chats that promote more intimacy with persons you have never met. It is not unusual for you to find folks stripping for the benefit of their online acquaintance. Would it not be funny to say that an individual who engages in this with a person who isn’t their spouse is not guilty? Since it is not physical, we name it emotional infidelity.
It’s necessary that something is done fast. Unfortunately you may have to embark on this alone. If you want to learn how to save your marriage alone, then begin by doing the following:
- Create ample time for your partner
- Strictly manage your time on social media
- Be careful of what you say on social media networks
- Offer your spouse something interesting enough to pull them away from the social media networks
- Let your partner have your full attention
See this as a war that you must win to save your marriage.
You can tackle emotional infidelity if you understand what to do. Know how to save your marriage alone.