Anger happens to be a very primal emotion,
one that can spell doom to your relationship if you’re not
careful and don’t manage to get a handle on that temper of
yours. I’m sure that you have been there, spewing off
angry curses at innocent bystanders who don’t have a clue
on what you’re so angry about. It could be that a crow
used your head as a “head” or that your brand new car got
totaled and since you don’t have insurance coverage,
you’re left holding the bill.
Do you think that the situations listed
above are enough to push you off the edge? Frankly, it
should, otherwise you’re just not human. Expressing anger is
a natural process, so expressing it is not exactly taboo,
but the flip side is when you get to expressing so much
rage, bottled up anger that you go overboard and then the
problem becomes apparent to everyone close to you except
yourself.Here are a
few handy anger management tips that you can use to bring
that temper of yours under control before you end up busting
up your relationship for good.
Take a close
look at yourself when you’re seeing red
–
Yep! It’s time to take
a closer look at yourself and find out if you have an
anger management problem or not. I’m sure that you have
cursed all the way from here to Zanzibar, but the
question you need to ask yourself is this, “Do you think
you have a problem in controlling your anger?” The very
fact that you’re questioning yourself just indicates that
you do think you have a problem. Do you have the habit of
smashing anything you can get your hands on especially
when you’re in “the mood”? If that’s the case, yeah, you
may as well get prepped to say goodbye to your
relationship, unless you’re ready to take the issue
seriously. The first step in any anger management class
is to overcome the denial mode and admit you have an
issue with managing your anger
effectively.
Be a fish
–
Anger is a natural emotion; one that you may
direct at the person who offends you or you may opt to keep
it bottled up and end up directing all that rage at an
innocent bystander or at yourself. The next time you get the
urge to start demolishing your furniture along with your
relationship, take a moment, relax; sit it out. Just try to
relax, breathe in deeply, count to 10 and see if you still
have the red glaze over your eyes. Think fish and you’ll get
the general idea of the breathing pattern. Usually, this
method works well for trivial issues, like crow poo making a
fashion statement on your brand new blazer. However this
method may not work for all issues especially the big ones
out there.
This method works well
since you would be using logic to restructure your anger
around. Sooner or later, you’ll come to realize that
nothing great ever comes out of screaming your head off
other than a visit to the doc to get your laryngitis
fixed. So, if you’re not in the mood for a doctor’s bill
or one from an anger management clinic, you may want to
give the “logic over emotion” routine a tryout. The logic
over emotion works every time, provided you take the time
off to consider this anger management
tip.
Try humor
–
The next time you feel like force feeding
your banker your credit rating file, you may want to take a
moment off, see if you can conjure up something funny in
your head and usually, within moments of doing so, your
anger should dissipate. Granted that there are going to be
issues which you will feel strongly about, but there’s no
need to fly off the handle just because your bank does not
approve your loan. Humor is a sure fire way to get a grip on
that temper before you opt to jump start a series of events,
one that can be traced back to your anger and your inability
to manage the same.
Obviously, for those of you with genuine
anger problems, the above is a simple outline as possible
action to take. However, if you are serious about really
getting away from the "anger habit", and need more than just
anger management tips, then Dr. Tony Fiore's "Anger Coach
Online" is definitely for you.
A web based 10 hour course (broken down
into bite sizes to be taken at your own time and pace), ,
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Downloadable Survival Guide for dealing with angry
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Online examination
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Online progress reports
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